Thanks so much for putting this on my radar. Interestingly, I can tell you for a FACT that if my FATHER, or my BROTHER, or my HUSBAND, or my BROTHER-IN-LAW did a Postgrad, we would never hear the last of how special and clever they were! Share Improve this answer Follow edited Oct 31, 2013 at 19:48 answered Oct 31, 2013 at 19:19 Lumberjack Godar points out that a woman may actually engage in a variety of bad behaviors at work. Except for Mary the Virgin: she was a good girl. The accusation he made is cloaking his fear that I am somehow taking away his freedom of speech. Assertive: a woman who is able to assert her own needs and wants. Words like pretty and beautiful are used to describe things that evoke strong emotion. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Women Connect4Good, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Maybe a woman is not a consensus builder, or needs to work on empathy. Step-by-step guide to Gender Equality Training Preparation phase 1. Snob No sexist comments will be published. Wasnt this a bit sexist? Problems occur when people (alas, including you) start trying to infer that roles are gender-oriented. This hypersensitive nation is encouraging people to feel offended, but feminism is a dying cause. This seems to infer that you would place extra emphasis upon the home, and child care which, at the end of the day, risks becoming sexist, because these things are stereotypically female roles. 6. She even accused me of being a selfish career-woman! I will never listen to a two year old small child in any adults body getting very upset and aggressive with me. But, they should start calling everyone boss and chief or just switch to sir and madam. 4. And, yes, whilst I agree that people need to respect an individual and their life experience the fact that you then go on to say adhere to MY clear boundaries about how to treat ME with respect and consideration for MY feelings makes me wonder why the emphasis suddenly flips exclusively to YOU? "Abrasive alone is used 17 times to describe 13 different women. So here is my list so far ofdozens of sneakily sexist words to get us all thinking. I think my first step is to share this on my (recently revived) and see how that does. Your email address will not be published. "One ex-housemate, who did not want to be named, described him as a man who was difficult to get along with, very bossy and imposing.". more . EAT THAT! Why do you care? Person B: Sexual violence exists on a pyramid. What you write, here, is both so important, and so true. Thank you! Spirited. Arrogant And to understand that from a Feminist perspective, the problem with home-making and child-care is that it has traditionally been seen as an exclusively FEMALE domain, which reinforces stereotype and limits opportunities for both women and men who want to do things differently (e.g. You make me think really hard with posts like this. As a bossy girl who doesnt need an education because Im just going to get married anyway (gotta love the advice my parents received and didnt follow), Ive been struggling with the straight jacket of gender expectations my whole life. If you consider yourself a misunderstood, independent woman, the following probably describes you. Also: shrill and strident, both of which imply high-pitched and. Worst of all I could do it completely without thinking. Its also the lack of lexemes for women. Check out this wonderful series of #banbossy posters. The fascinating story behind many people's favori Test your vocabulary with our 10-question quiz! Having a boss with whom you can speak openly and honestly means that the boss is approachable. We thought not. If you think shes being unreasonable, say so. This means that he/she is friendly or able to receive others. Love pillows (usually pronounced luuurv pilloz) Delivered to your inbox! Thanks! I started writing them down a little while ago. It is important to mature from 20th centuary concept of feminism and ways of dealing with it as it can harm and keep us stuck in unintentional models of patriarchy that is unfair to both men and women and the generations they are raising. We can challenge and vent all we like but will it ever change? 4. Here are some possible words to use to talk about a compassionate woman: Affectionate - She demonstrates kindness to others in a physical way. Try to take all the judgment and emotion out of what youre talking about. The worst offenders are MY OWN FATHER, who accused me of being stuck up; and my MOTHER-IN-LAW, who insults me at every opportunity she gets in such a wide range of ways that I sense all she can do is throw insults. Say that someone is being unkind, rude, selfish or inconsiderate. Also, how do we get this demeaning language out of movies and shows? Great list, I am currently doing a design project on language and feminism focusing on the way we use just. Some men may be absolutely useless at it. That book really opened my eyes and changed my thinking and behaviour 1) Lively, resilient and self-reliant 2) (US and Canadian) frisky 3) (US and Canadian) irritable None of these definitions mention gender at all. What used to be a fine cause that helped secure the female vote and the females right to work has turned into something bitter and man-hating. Believe it or not, Im not hysterically upset over life, but Im not going to lie and pretend that we live in some fantasy where everyone is treated fairly and gets the same interview. And thats before a company even thinks about hiring a woman of child-bearing age. I appreciate both the article and comments. Can you use them to describe a girl today? I don't want to work with him because he's so. Active Adaptable Adventurous Affable Amiable Amicable Amusing Brave Bright Calm Careful Charming Circumspect Communicative Compassionate Conscientious Considerate Courageous Courteous Creative Determined Diligent Diplomatic Discreet Dynamic Empathetic Energetic Faithful Fearless Friendly Funny Generous Gentle Good Gregarious Helpful Honest Hopeful Do these everyday things offend me? Typically used in the workplace. We are going to talk about this tomorrow, I cant wait! We women were toasted for our beauty. Emasculatory For When 'Lowdown Crook' Isn't Specific Enough. 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Your article caused me to consider how I encourage the use of the divine feminine. Being calm and talking about how you feel and making it clear that you want to help them help you is important. And doesntthe act of writing for all the world to see sound less brave and revolutionary when you slap a label on it like mummy blog? Besides, it should be a PERSONAL CHOICE, irrespective of gender, as to whether a person wants a career, or wants to stay at home and raise babies. antonyms for MOST RELEVANT modest Roget's 21st Century Thesaurus, Third Edition Copyright 2013 by the Philip Lief Group. Dont say she has no professional training but he worked his way up. But the core dynamic will still be there, damn Im ranting, anyway, I liked your comment. Youre sensitive! is one of my favorite protest-phrases for I disagree, because it manages to make the writer lookoffended. Consider ditching them and looking for replacements youll enjoy using to build up the kids you love. Earlier today, I suggested an alternate solution to a coworker. After an unsuccessful first attempt, Jovanovich became pregnant in October 2020. Men dont tend to use it nearly as often. The Missus I was promoted to research this subject after my daughter told me shes been told shes bossy. What I dont understand is why words like nurturing should be taken as such an insult. You are welcome to write one about words like macho and effeminate. Search for it here. I hope to find more words like this to add to the research so if you have any that would be great! Premenstrual Neurotic Mary Magdalen: now she was a very bad girl it took a man to make her good. Lerner, in one of the chapters, also points out that for every one insult linguistically available to describe a male, there are about ten that describe a female. You are doing more harm than good, and your fellow women know it! Get a life Yes, we have more than our share of horrible words, and then not enough of the others. 3. Amicable - She is friendly and cares about the needs of others. Men are encouraged to wear wedding rings as to appear stable. Women have so much sexual and psychological power, most men are fucking terrified, just take a look at the red pill blogs, its thousands of scared little 40 year old boys. vulnerable, fundamental). Here are some examples of words that can be used to describe strong women: Resilient: a woman who is able to bounce back from adversity and challenges. The Little Woman Would it be fair to say: Policy: If you wouldnt say it to a man, dont say it to a woman. Thanks for the enriching piece of writing! This is a reaction to Sheryl Sandbergs current campaign to get people to stop using the word bossy when describing females. Trophy Wife Im taking an educated guess here, but I think the Bible was written by males, from a male point of view. A good test to use, if youreally do need totalk about sexual behaviour perhaps in the abstract, with a teenager is, again, only to use language that fits people of any gender. The Little Lady Ive added most of the suggestions to this list, though Ive omitted a great number of the direct insults that we can all recognise as sexist (even if some peoplethink they are acceptable for use.). Peoples lifestyle choices are THEIR OWN, and thus the value that they hold can only be measured in terms of how the PERSON CHOOSING VALUES IT. Ive been able to point out words that make my shoulders clench, but I havent always been able to explain why it bothers me or what to say differently. Therefore, theres no need to lie about this, because its a fact. Looking for something in particular? Theres nothing wrong withbeing bubbly, but if its a word used to underestimate and undervalue womens other qualities, maybe its one to relegate. Thats one I get a lot also Co -dependent. When was the last time youve seen a man labeled nurturing or co-dependent? Women leaders often report being called "aggressive" or "bossy" by superiors or peers. How many men have you hearddescribed as working fathers, let alone dadpreneurs? Men are people too and i think a large majority of men born in later decades of 20th centuary are doing what they can to find true equality in society. Most cultures are male dominated as we know. When I really looked at it, I thought the guy is a degenerate loser. Look forward to hearing how it goes, Oops, I meant recently revived Facebook. How we speak to and about kids is a larger topic, of course. She points out that of the insults we use to discuss men and boys, some of them are actually words that INSULT WOMEN. Or maybe a male nurse, or homemaker who has perhaps felt uncertainty about the choices he made? She had that workload because those above her knew just how effective she was but didnt want their balls to shrink by acknowledging it. Plus-size (have you ever heard of a plus-size model who was male?). I came upon it while searching for guidance in addressing a colleague who refers to me as supermom (sigh). When I see something that offends me, I roll my eyes and move on. The list has gone from my seventeen to 122 words or phrases used against women. It is not really possible to say with any accuracy whether debate is masculine, or whether females do things differently. And ANYTHING that infers only females suffer depression, anxiety and eating disorders, Vile workplace terms for women: The words bossy is typically used as an insult to get girls and women to shut up and sit down. 5. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. Cant find what youre looking for? Why are these insults levelled at hard-working girls? Then I opened my eyes and took a good hard look at the world. Stuck-up I feel its my duty as the majority of the doctors who treat me are younger than me. Also, my mother-in-law is an ex-nurse and still cannot understand that my inability to have given her grandchildren is directly related to my Endometriosis. What is surprising is peoples inability to understand that. Women are more emotional than men, that is just how it is. Pushy/Assertive. Nut-crusher Ooh I needed this. Gold Digger. Have you heard about the campaign to #banbossy? Remember this pyramid? I was speaking to a friend today and she has just started a new job. I tell them what I need too in a respectful way. Reading it I kept nodding and wincing as I thought how often Ive heard all of these. Perhaps you should have a look at the book The Dance Of Anger by Harriet Lerner, a book in which she describes gender role stereotyping, and the language that is sued to frame it. Little woman/lady It will advance women empowerment and help us increase our vocabularies if we stop calling girls bossy. In YOUR eyes, just WHO do you think should be working, and WHO should be caring for the vulnerable kids at home? Alpha female traits manifest in her career, personal life, hobbies, friendships pretty much every facet of her life. Indeed, changing how we talk to and about women will help us dismantle rape culture and raise kids who are world-changers. It can cause her to pull her hand back and not reach as high, bite her tongue, try to fit in. Im trying to distill this great piece into a concise personnel policy. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Much food for thought to discuss in my positive relationships lesson with 14-15 year students next week. Another opinion here, though.). Pingback: Political Meme Thread - Page 391, Pingback: The world I would give my daughter - My Flatpack Life, Great list! I feel like handsome as a general adjective was more common 100-200 years ago (Im thinking Anne of Green Gables usage! If people feel angry I am ok with what they feel but i never have to subject myself to emotional abuse by listening to their right to have their voice heard. (My mother recently overheard people commenting on the color of my toenail polish and promptly went over to my male colleague and asked him what color nail polish he was wearing as his shoes didnt allow her to see it. Belongs to the 'ambitious', 'abrasive' and 'bossy' family. Thank you for helping me to see through this new lens my own complicity in the life-limiting system of patriarchy. What would make your list? I have also heard wench used similarly-but thats a little more obvious. It is crucial that people articulate this; and articulate the fact that, compared to insults against males, the language that insults women and girls is extensive in reach and vast in quantity. 9. ), Heart-breaker (and any other words that sexualise little kids, suggesting they are into romance orsex when theyre only four years old. English has plenty of options. Had I been a boy, would I have been treated the same, or would my traits then have been seen as acceptable? Jailbait Subscribe to America's largest dictionary and get thousands more definitions and advanced searchad free! Great list! Viper For example, I worked in a Hospital as a Social Worker and my boss was a MALE NURSE. I have been called a selfish career woman by my prudish, hyper-religious mother-in-law. My father also insulted my interest in things like ballet, theatre, museums and art galleries by variously calling these interests pretentious, snobby, stuck up and arty-farty. Other words were disproportionately applied to women, including bossy, aggressive, strident, emotional and irrational. Horrors! I love it! 5. Dont let these comments slide when you hear them.If youre feeling sarky. I am a minister who serves a mainline tradition in the U.S., a tradition that has been ordaining women for a century. See for instance how flowery the illustrations of Shakespeares use of the word are in this Pinterest search: And though she be but little she is fierce. Ask yourself if you speak critically about men as often as you do about women. The best is on Twitter, though, so do go and follow her. It appears you do not actually fully understand it. Choose gender neutral words if you must refer to someones irritability or unreasonableness. This person has a cordial relationship with all of the employees, which makes the workspace a positive place for everyone. Lezzer (or any implication that working females must be gay) (this from a person who learned medical terminology as part of training to be a medical office assistant, and again later in training to be a pharmacist). Once I got going it wasnt even thatdifficult. 12. People need to respect an individual and their life experience and adhere to my clear boundaries about how to treat me with respect and consideration for my feelings. Isnt it just period pain? (Related, bossy) Sassy: An adjective used to describe a woman with a personality. Bit of stuff 1. I feel that this may be an integral part of homo sapiens behaviour. Interestingly, Lerner points out that although anger is a natural emotion shared by both males and females, angry is an insulting term to describe WOMEN, but rarely if ever men. Junk in the trunk But first: is she being unreasonable, or is she just disagreeing with you? My father insultingly called my interest in English Literature piss assed and arty-farty, whilst clearly showing a preference for stereotypically male topics like football. I think the key is to always search out the good people, that will respect you. I have worked hard all my life (3 degrees) and have received no help from any of my family, only criticism. That study has been out for so long, theres no excuse to not be aware of it, especially if youre going to position yourself as someone who can disprove it. Ass Loved reading this! I have a thing about misogyny and putting women in their place language. Aggressive. How other people choose to dressis none of anyone elses damn business. If you dont agree with her, say so. Fierce. I dont even think they realize it. Emotional/Passionate. Dont mention her young children unless you would also mention his, or describe her clothes unless you would describe his, or say shes shrill or attractive unless the same adjectives would be applied to a man. It's a term rarely used to describe boys or men (they're just "confident" or "assertive") - the implication being that women shouldn't express strong opinions. Also, I was accused by a bloke I wasnt even interested in of being jailbait because when I was a teen he asked me out and I refused. Whilst it is important to value people for themselves, it is also important to understand issues before you start making comments about them. They were not expected to direct activities and lead the group. So its a good thing weve got other words for that kind of bossy, too, she notes. That would be a different article. Im a little surprised MILF didnt make the list. So, in sum, many words used ostensibly to insult males actually indirectly INSULT FEMALES. An unpleasant male boss is rarely known as bitchy, although gay men can face a similar plight to.
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